So you want the perfect wedding? Well, face up to this right now: there isn't one, there hasn't been one, nor will there ever be one. Just get over it.

Something will happen. The cake won't arrive on time or it won't be exactly what you ordered. The band will come in drunk or worse, and the emcee will embarrass your guests. Your aunt Tootsie will probably sing with the band.

Just expect it and try to live with it.

But when those worries start to get out of hand, there is a something you can do to ease the stress.

Imagine that your wedding is going to be the "wedding from hell." Just take for granted that everything will go wrong ... the maid of honor will get drunk and confess she slept with the groom or whatever your worst nightmare is.

Write it all down. Go ahead, indulge yourself. Write down every possible thing that can go wrong and then burn it. Yes, light a fire to all your worries. Let it burn.

Then take some time for yourself. Go to a spa or visit with friends you haven't seen in a while. Do what you need to do to take your mind off "the big day."

Then go off and have a great wedding ...